revenge...

Today's quote of the day is:

"it is my revenge time for all the years of suffering"

this is what was "broadcasted" to me from the kitchen today. Left me a bit speechless to be honest. The meaning is so deep and hurtful on so many levels that it leaves no room for reply or any action. It is both an accusation for ruined past and also a promise of a future that is not worth looking forward to. I was told many times that I ruined my partner life and took the best years from her. I do not know what I did. I thought we had a good life together. Sure last couple of years are were not great but decades before that were good. Now I'm learning that not only they weren't good but that I also make my partner suffer. Probing questions however, never revealed anything and I still have no idea where I went wrong in my life. What mistakes did I make? I must have made some mistakes. Everyone makes them. Never, however, I had any intentions to harm anyone or cause anyone to suffer. This is crazy and hard to believe. I tried hard all my life and focused on my family. Always. Clearly not enough if my partner has feelings like that. 

a week or two later on Sunday I got a message from work to help with some urgent problems. I just finished renovating the deck and was looking to have a break but had no choice but log in and help my struggling team. On top of that I was shouted at for being an idiot and working on weekend and later I heard from the kitchen "watch me making you lunch now". I guess this is part of the revenge. Not that she ever cooks for me. This was just a hurtful statement to show me that I can expect no help. 

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